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How to flirt with a guy... yours!
How to Flirt With a Guy (Yours!)

WebMD Feature from "Redbook" MagazineSara Anderson

Just because you’re happily coupled doesn’t mean you’re flirting days are behind you. Whether you’ve been together for five months or 15 years, these fun, sexy moves will bring you closer to the man in your life.

Flirt with the waiter, or that traffic cop who pulled you over, or the dry cleaner? Sure. But flirt with the guy who sleeps next to you every night? Why bother? Well, here's why: A little playful, seductive teasing is crucial to keeping longtime love hot. And it's easier than you think. After all, who knows better than you what catches his eye, makes him laugh, and turns him on? And don't forget how fun flirting can be. He'll raise his eyebrows, you'll giggle. He'll wink, you'll pinch. Most important, he'll feel fantastic -- and you'll feel like the hottest thing in his world, too. Add one, two, or all of these moves to your repertoire and see where they take you!

When You Have a Free Minute

SIGN, SEAL, AND DELIVER.
Find an old postcard from a trip you two took together (last summer's vacation, your honeymoon). Write a message telling him how sharp and wonderful that memory still is and how much you look forward to so many more. Then sign your postcard with an XOXO (of course!) and pop it in the mail to him.

GIVE HIM A PEEP SHOW TO GO.
In the middle of the morning rush, flash him full-on. Yep, fling that bathrobe or towel wide open and ask him to picture you--just like this--all day long. This catch-him-off-guard flirt will make him feel like the luckiest guy on the planet.

SEND HIM AN INSTANT FLIRT.
Take a digital shot of the restaurant where he proposed, the coffee shop where you met, even the bar where you fi rst beat him at pool. E-mail it to him with a straight-to-the-chase line: "You. Me. Here. Tonight."

SHARE A SEXY DREAM.
Mention, casually, while he's brushing his teeth or you're pouring your a.m. coffee, "You know, I had a really interesting dream last night." Then describe a favorite fantasy of yours--even if it's just, "We were making love on the beach with the waves crashing at our feet." You'll both hold that image in your heads for a long time.

When You Want Date Night to Go All Night

GIVE HIM YOUR DIGITS.
You're having dinner at your favorite restaurant, and the meal's almost over. Write down your measurements on a cocktail napkin--"34-30-36," etc. Tell him you purchased new lingerie that fits just right--and it's waiting in the top dresser drawer at home. Now take one more bite of dessert and get out of there.

REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM
Remember your first few dates, when sparks flew every time your hands brushed against each other? On your next date night, tap into that chemistry again with some subtle, teasing touches:

Sit next to him in a restaurant booth and let your thigh press against his. Graze his lap with your hand when you reach for the popcorn. Just remember, the idea is to tease, not manhandle (unless you're asked to, of course!).

LEAVE THE LIGHTS OFF.
It's easy to get your guy into bed. But keeping him in bed--that's worth flirting for! After you've done you-know-what, engage in a little "flirtplay"--the opposite of "foreplay." Instead of flipping on latenight TV, keep the lights dim and the romance going with some ear nibbling and serious cuddling. Or pour a glass of wine and just relax together in peace and quiet.

When You Can't Get a Sitter

PLANT A GOOD-NIGHT NOTE.
Right before he puts the little darlings to sleep, stick a note inside the storybook he's going to read. Tell him his bedtime involves popcorn and a movie in bed.

GET A LAUGH OUT OF HIM.
Completely cornball pickup lines never earthquaked any man's libido, but they're good for cracking each other up on a cozy night in. Try, "Is that a mirror in your pocket? 'Cause I can see myself in your pants." The cornier, the better!

BE A TEASE.
He may think he always knows your next move, but it's good to keep him guessing. Hit him with this: "I made plans for us for Saturday night. But I'm only telling you that margaritas and a steamy shower are involved." Flash a sly smile and see how long it takes before he tries to tickle the details out of you.

When You Haven't Had Sex in (Gulp) a While

CENTER HIS ATTENTION.
It's body language 101: If you want your man to look at something on you, touch it. Caress your neck, fiddle with an earring, or twist a strand of your hair between your fingers. Even if he's across the room, he'll soon be a lot closer.

GIVE HIM A GOOD, LONG LOOK.
Checking out your man's, um, best asset is a great form of flirty flattery. Say you're in the car together or stationed on the sofa. Let your eyes repeatedly wander down, down, down. When he catches on, make it clear that you like what you see with an I-can't-help-myself shrug and a smile. Reminding him that he's got it and you want it is the ultimate compliment.

RENT SOMETHING RACY.
Saturday night, let him believe you've picked up a standard-issue blockbuster, but instead surprise him with a movie that's a little naughtier. It doesn't have to be that naughty, just something with plenty of steamy scenes. Remember those ha-cha-cha moments in Unfaithful or even Wild Things?

WEAR SOMETHING LACY.
Why save your favorite lacy little things for a special occasion? Wear your sexiest, most va-va- voom lingerie on a regular day, under your regular clothes. Then give your guy a teasing peek so he knows it's there. You'll feel like a total vamp, and he'll definitely want to take a closer look.

When You're Both Too Stressed to Think Straight

SAY IT SOFTLY.
Whispers work magic by making you both focus on the moment (instead of the 8 million things on your to-do lists). Lean in close and cup his ear, even if it's just to murmur, "Want wine with dinner, baby?"

STICK OH-SO-CLOSE.
Try this: Whether you're walking the dog around the block or cooking in the kitchen together, stay glued to his side. Sneak in some sweet touches--a pinky squeeze, a nose nuzzle. You'll see that you don't even have to talk to say "I love you."

When You Need a Hallmark Moment

JUST REPEAT IT.
When he comes home from work, plant one on him. Then, five minutes later, plant one on him again. Give him a soul-squeezing hug on a lazy Sunday morning. Minutes later, give him another just like it. He'll love the extra attention.

PENCIL IN SOME PLAYTIME.
Don't get too bogged down with the daily grind; flirt by letting him know that "us time" is your top priority. On the family calendar that's posted prominently in your kitchen, schedule some one-on-one time with him--then make sure he checks the schedule. Write: "You and me. Two hours alone-- you say when and where."

When You're Out On the Town

ASK HIM ANYTHING.
Don't be like those couples who go to restaurants and never talk! Ask questions--lots of them-- when you're sitting down to a long, leisurely dinner together. The quirkier, the better. How about: "If I were a cocktail, what would you call me and why?" Or, "If we could travel back in time and be high school sweethearts, what would you suggest we do after dinner tonight?"

LET HIM LEAD.
You make so many decisions all day, every day. Why not let him take control of something he usually doesn't--and give yourself one less thing to think about in the process? Before a night out, step out of the shower and throw in the towel, so to speak. Let him pick out what you'll wear--skirt, top, shoes, lipstick, panties, perfume, everything. What he chooses may surprise you, and nothing's hotter than a surprise between two people who think they know everything about each other.

GIVE HIM AN EYEFUL.
Next time you're at a party with your guy, shoot him some coy, come-hither looks across a crowded room--just as if he were a sexy stranger. Catch his eye and hold it for just a beat, then look away. Glance back quickly, shyly, out of the corner of your eye. Let your eyes flicker up and down his body. He won't be able to take his eyes off you.

When a Fight Is Still On Your Mind

GIVE HIM A CUE.
Melt the tension with music. Find a totally sexy song and play it during a totally unsexy moment. Try "Tonight Is the Night" by Betty Wright or "Naughty Girl" by Beyonce--or whatever gets your heart thumping.

CUT HIM OFF WITH A SEXY TOUCH.
Your argument is going nowhere, and it's clearly time to take a break. Defuse the situation with this lightning-bolt move: In the middle of his sentence, give him a tight, chest-wrapping hug, kiss the nape of his neck, or start ticklishly brushing your lips against his.

PUT IT IN WRITING.
Think about how you feel when your guy gives you a compliment you've never heard before. It makes you feel closer to him, right? Next time you need a relationship truce, try doing this for him: Write five things that you adore about him on sticky notes and tack them in places he can't miss--like on his six-pack in the fridge or on his side of the bathroom mirror. Don't forget to praise his physique in detail--who doesn't love hearing how hot his partner finds him? You'll give him a lift and remind both of you of the lighter side of your love.

Any ideas? :-)
- 07 Dec 2007, 10:09 pm
Michael Brittingham wrote: > How to Flirt With a Guy (Yours!) > > WebMD Feature from "Redbook" MagazineSara Anderson > > Just because you’re happily coupled doesn’t mean you’re flirting > days are behind you. Whether you’ve been together for five months or > 15 years, these fun, sexy moves will bring you closer to the man in > your life. > > Flirt with the waiter, or that traffic cop who pulled you over, or > the dry cleaner? Sure. But flirt with the guy who sleeps next to you > every night? Why bother? Well, here's why: A little playful, > seductive teasing is crucial to keeping longtime love hot. And it's > easier than you think. After all, who knows better than you what > catches his eye, makes him laugh, and turns him on? And don't forget > how fun flirting can be. He'll raise his eyebrows, you'll giggle. > He'll wink, you'll pinch. Most important, he'll feel fantastic -- and > you'll feel like the hottest thing in his world, too. Add one, two, > or all of these moves to your repertoire and see where they take you! > > When You Have a Free Minute > > SIGN, SEAL, AND DELIVER. > Find an old postcard from a trip you two took together (last summer's > vacation, your honeymoon). Write a message telling him how sharp and > wonderful that memory still is and how much you look forward to so > many more. Then sign your postcard with an XOXO (of course!) and pop > it in the mail to him. > > GIVE HIM A PEEP SHOW TO GO. > In the middle of the morning rush, flash him full-on. Yep, fling that > bathrobe or towel wide open and ask him to picture you--just like > this--all day long. This catch-him-off-guard flirt will make him feel > like the luckiest guy on the planet. > > SEND HIM AN INSTANT FLIRT. > Take a digital shot of the restaurant where he proposed, the coffee > shop where you met, even the bar where you fi rst beat him at pool. > E-mail it to him with a straight-to-the-chase line: "You. Me. Here. > Tonight." > > SHARE A SEXY DREAM. > Mention, casually, while he's brushing his teeth or you're pouring > your a.m. coffee, "You know, I had a really interesting dream last > night." Then describe a favorite fantasy of yours--even if it's just, > "We were making love on the beach with the waves crashing at our > feet." You'll both hold that image in your heads for a long time. > > When You Want Date Night to Go All Night > > GIVE HIM YOUR DIGITS. > You're having dinner at your favorite restaurant, and the meal's > almost over. Write down your measurements on a cocktail > napkin--"34-30-36," etc. Tell him you purchased new lingerie that > fits just right--and it's waiting in the top dresser drawer at home. > Now take one more bite of dessert and get out of there. > > REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM > Remember your first few dates, when sparks flew every time your hands > brushed against each other? On your next date night, tap into that > chemistry again with some subtle, teasing touches: > > Sit next to him in a restaurant booth and let your thigh press > against his. Graze his lap with your hand when you reach for the > popcorn. Just remember, the idea is to tease, not manhandle (unless > you're asked to, of course!). > > LEAVE THE LIGHTS OFF. > It's easy to get your guy into bed. But keeping him in bed--that's > worth flirting for! After you've done you-know-what, engage in a > little "flirtplay"--the opposite of "foreplay." Instead of flipping > on latenight TV, keep the lights dim and the romance going with some > ear nibbling and serious cuddling. Or pour a glass of wine and just > relax together in peace and quiet. > > When You Can't Get a Sitter > > PLANT A GOOD-NIGHT NOTE. > Right before he puts the little darlings to sleep, stick a note > inside the storybook he's going to read. Tell him his bedtime > involves popcorn and a movie in bed. > > GET A LAUGH OUT OF HIM. > Completely cornball pickup lines never earthquaked any man's libido, > but they're good for cracking each other up on a cozy night in. Try, > "Is that a mirror in your pocket? 'Cause I can see myself in your > pants." The cornier, the better! > > BE A TEASE. > He may think he always knows your next move, but it's good to keep > him guessing. Hit him with this: "I made plans for us for Saturday > night. But I'm only telling you that margaritas and a steamy shower > are involved." Flash a sly smile and see how long it takes before he > tries to tickle the details out of you. > > When You Haven't Had Sex in (Gulp) a While > > CENTER HIS ATTENTION. > It's body language 101: If you want your man to look at something on > you, touch it. Caress your neck, fiddle with an earring, or twist a > strand of your hair between your fingers. Even if he's across the > room, he'll soon be a lot closer. > > GIVE HIM A GOOD, LONG LOOK. > Checking out your man's, um, best asset is a great form of flirty > flattery. Say you're in the car together or stationed on the sofa. > Let your eyes repeatedly wander down, down, down. When he catches on, > make it clear that you like what you see with an I-can't-help-myself > shrug and a smile. Reminding him that he's got it and you want it is > the ultimate compliment. > > RENT SOMETHING RACY. > Saturday night, let him believe you've picked up a standard-issue > blockbuster, but instead surprise him with a movie that's a little > naughtier. It doesn't have to be that naughty, just something with > plenty of steamy scenes. Remember those ha-cha-cha moments in > Unfaithful or even Wild Things? > > WEAR SOMETHING LACY. > Why save your favorite lacy little things for a special occasion? > Wear your sexiest, most va-va- voom lingerie on a regular day, under > your regular clothes. Then give your guy a teasing peek so he knows > it's there. You'll feel like a total vamp, and he'll definitely want > to take a closer look. > > When You're Both Too Stressed to Think Straight > > SAY IT SOFTLY. > Whispers work magic by making you both focus on the moment (instead > of the 8 million things on your to-do lists). Lean in close and cup > his ear, even if it's just to murmur, "Want wine with dinner, baby?" > > STICK OH-SO-CLOSE. > Try this: Whether you're walking the dog around the block or cooking > in the kitchen together, stay glued to his side. Sneak in some sweet > touches--a pinky squeeze, a nose nuzzle. You'll see that you don't > even have to talk to say "I love you." > > When You Need a Hallmark Moment > > JUST REPEAT IT. > When he comes home from work, plant one on him. Then, five minutes > later, plant one on him again. Give him a soul-squeezing hug on a > lazy Sunday morning. Minutes later, give him another just like it. > He'll love the extra attention. > > PENCIL IN SOME PLAYTIME. > Don't get too bogged down with the daily grind; flirt by letting him > know that "us time" is your top priority. On the family calendar > that's posted prominently in your kitchen, schedule some one-on-one > time with him--then make sure he checks the schedule. Write: "You and > me. Two hours alone-- you say when and where." > > When You're Out On the Town > > ASK HIM ANYTHING. > Don't be like those couples who go to restaurants and never talk! Ask > questions--lots of them-- when you're sitting down to a long, > leisurely dinner together. The quirkier, the better. How about: "If I > were a cocktail, what would you call me and why?" Or, "If we could > travel back in time and be high school sweethearts, what would you > suggest we do after dinner tonight?" > > LET HIM LEAD. > You make so many decisions all day, every day. Why not let him take > control of something he usually doesn't--and give yourself one less > thing to think about in the process? Before a night out, step out of > the shower and throw in the towel, so to speak. Let him pick out what > you'll wear--skirt, top, shoes, lipstick, panties, perfume, > everything. What he chooses may surprise you, and nothing's hotter > than a surprise between two people who think they know everything > about each other. > > GIVE HIM AN EYEFUL. > Next time you're at a party with your guy, shoot him some coy, > come-hither looks across a crowded room--just as if he were a sexy > stranger. Catch his eye and hold it for just a beat, then look away. > Glance back quickly, shyly, out of the corner of your eye. Let your > eyes flicker up and down his body. He won't be able to take his eyes > off you. > > When a Fight Is Still On Your Mind > > GIVE HIM A CUE. > Melt the tension with music. Find a totally sexy song and play it > during a totally unsexy moment. Try "Tonight Is the Night" by Betty > Wright or "Naughty Girl" by Beyonce--or whatever gets your heart > thumping. > > CUT HIM OFF WITH A SEXY TOUCH. > Your argument is going nowhere, and it's clearly time to take a > break. Defuse the situation with this lightning-bolt move: In the > middle of his sentence, give him a tight, chest-wrapping hug, kiss > the nape of his neck, or start ticklishly brushing your lips against > his. > > PUT IT IN WRITING. > Think about how you feel when your guy gives you a compliment you've > never heard before. It makes you feel closer to him, right? Next time > you need a relationship truce, try doing this for him: Write five > things that you adore about him on sticky notes and tack them in > places he can't miss--like on his six-pack in the fridge or on his > side of the bathroom mirror. Don't forget to praise his physique in > detail--who doesn't love hearing how hot his partner finds him? > You'll give him a lift and remind both of you of the lighter side of > your love. > > Any ideas? :-)
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